In this blog post, I explain my journey as a young mum who felt mummy guilt and I share some ways that I overcame it. Apply the strategies - they may work for you too!
Usha Chudasama
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We know that stress is the natural response to external pressure that disrupts our balance, don’t we? But did you know that stress has a mind/body connection? It can affect every area of our life. What is Stress? Stress is a normal reaction to an outside stimulus that everyone experiences. […]
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This is the last in a 4 part series of blogs that has looked at listening and how to manage your child’s negative behaviour when they don’t listen. If you missed them, you can read part 1 here and part 2 here. In part 3 we looked at the first […]
In part 1 and part 2 of our 4 part series, we talked about listening and what is happening when our children don’t always listen to us. We discussed that when ‘acting up’ children are often only looking for a way of communicating with you because they feel distant. […]
In our previous blog we discussed the different types of listening and how these can impact on the relationship we have with our children. We also looked at the reasons behind why our children don’t always listen to us, and discovered that this can often be because they are […]
We like to think that we are good listeners when it comes to our children, but, are we really listening to what they tell us? Listening is more than just hearing the words our children say. In the first of this four part blog series we are going to […]
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The Importance Of Play And Imagination In this blog, we will be talking about how the Imagination works and the importance of encouraging your child to use their imagination, and the benefits that this can bring to them. Using your imagination can boost your happiness in life. You can […]
The Brain Part 2: Fight, Flight or Freeze In the first part of this two part blog series we looked at the different parts of our brain and the different functions that they hold. Can you remember the three parts of your brain? Let’s recap: The Reptilian Brain: Our primal brain […]
The Brain Part 1: How the brain works and the functions of the brain In this blog we are going to be looking at the different functions of the brain and how they work, to help give you a better understanding of your child and their behaviours. Did you know […]
Relaxation, why is it important and why should we help our children relax? In this blog we are going to be looking at what relaxation is, why it important to relax, and at some useful exercises you can do with your child to help them learn and understand relaxation. Relaxation […]
Happy Holidays and Season’s Greetings from Usha and the Healing Feeling team! Wow! Where did that year go? Have you found that too? For me, this year has been busy and productive but has gone very fast. This year, I have decided to donate money to Haven House charity instead […]
12 Principles To Deal With Inappropriate Behaviour: Part 3 In the third and final part of our 12 tools to deal with inappropriate behaviour we will be discussing the remaining 4 techniques that you can use to help you create a more harmonious relationship with your child during these tricky […]
12 Principles To Deal With Inappropriate Behaviour: Part 2 In part 1 of this series 12 Principles To Deal With Inappropriate Behaviour: Part 1 we covered the first four tools that you can use to help you when coping with children’s inappropriate behaviour. In part 2 we are going to look at […]
12 Principles To Deal With Inappropriate Behaviour: Part 1 Being a parent can be hard at times, especially when it comes to knowing how to deal with your child’s behaviour. It may seem sometimes that you have just got to the bottom of one thing, and then something new presents […]
The Importance Of Breathing Our bodies are amazing things, we can stay alive for long periods of time without food, water and even sleep, but not without oxygen. But how much importance and thought do we give to this vital function? Do we realise just how important breathing is to […]
“Your Happy Child” Book Launch GalaLast week on 16th November, I launched my book, “Your Happy Child, 10 Proven Steps To Raising A Happy Child” at Wanstead Golf Club, East London. Nearly 100 guests attended and I am thrilled to hear so much positive feedback from them.We kicked off at 6.30pm with […]
I am thrilled to announce that my book, “Your Happy Child, 10 Proven Steps To Raising A Happy Child” has been published and I am hosting an exclusive launch gala on 16th November at Wanstead Golf Club in East London. Please click here to grab your ticket! I am […]
“Your Happy Child” – What I Do 1) Are you looking for ways to cope with your children without resorting to the infamous naughty step or controlled anger? “Your Happy Child” offers a gentle approach to parenting that will help you to enjoy your family, to understand the limitations and how […]
“Your Happy Child – 10 Proven Steps to Raising a Happy Child” is an indispensable guide for parents looking for a more gentle and effective way to shape their relationship with their children and understand and most importantly manage their child’s behaviour. “Your Happy Child – 10 Proven Steps […]
7 Ways To Prepare Your Child For The New School Year The summer holidays are coming to an end and the first day back at school is nearing. You may have mixed feelings about this in your household – you may have loved having your children home but are also […]
5 Steps To Creating The Right Environment Within Your Family School’s out for summer! Are you ready for six weeks of having the kids at home with you? I used to love the summer holidays when I had all day to play with my daughter and do activities together. Don’t […]
Why I Wrote “Your Happy Child” I have been writing my book, “Your Happy Child”, and preparing for it to be published for nearly 2 years now. It contains a culmination of ten years’ worth of tried and tested practical steps with tools and strategies and detailed explanations. Mental Health […]
In the school playground, a parent came up to me with tears of joy, she held my hands and said, “thank you, thank you so much for giving my son back to me – he’s better behaved at home and we actually have a genuine relationship. You are his […]
I became self-employed in 2014. At every business training, event or conference I went to, the message I kept hearing was the same message – you need to write and publish a book as it is a powerful tool in promoting yourself and is one of the strongest ways […]
What Is Self Care? Self care, as the name suggests, is care provided by you, for you. It is about taking the time to understand your own needs and taking the right steps to meet those needs, without the need to feel guilty or that you are not worth […]
In the same way that you would get a mechanic to fix your car’s engine, you can get an expert to coach you with your parenting towards a happy family. It is a skill that can be learned and we often call on a trusted expert to help us […]
At Christmas, your children might be putting “present pressure” on you – i.e. asking for specific gifts that you may not be able to afford, that you find inappropriate or are not willing to buy for any other reason. “Pester power” i.e. your child pestering you for weeks about what […]
As a parent, of course you want to make Christmas magical for your children. Problems arise only when you give into your children’s demands that are beyond your means. Just look at the children’s reactions in this video from Jimmy Kimmel where parents tell their children they ate all their Halloween […]
The world is going through a huge transition. In the US, letting go of Obama and taking on Trump! In the UK, letting go of being in the EU and standing alone. In our own lives, letting go of our comfort zone and taking on new ideas and challenges. We all […]
We are coming towards the end of the year – the air is getting crisper and we can get our snuggly jumpers out again. October is a great month, full of celebrations for Diwali, Halloween and…Half Term holidays! Diwali is the Hindu Festival of Lights and celebrates the overcoming of good over evil. […]
I really enjoyed my work as a Behaviour Consultant for London Borough of Redbridge some years ago. For part of our own professional development and the annual appraisal we could choose a topic to research that interested us and benefitted the team. I chose ‘Happiness,’ considering my other projects in past years were based on […]
Continuing with our theme of Emotional Literacy, which is important for communicating our feelings, this blog post focuses on fear. How Fear Works Imagine this, you are walking home on your own one rainy night, its dark and there aren’t many people in the street. Suddenly, you hear the […]
Emotional Literacy is important for communicating feelings. One significant part of Emotional Literacy to learn is about emotions. In this blog I am going to talk about how sadness is actually a useful emotion and it tells us about when we have been hurt. Emotional Literacy: Sadness I believe that […]
“Belief is the state of mind in which a person thinks something to be the case, with or without there being empirical evidence to prove that something is the case with factual certainty.” How Beliefs Are Formed We have hundreds and thousands of thoughts going through our minds […]
Why Do I Need To Know The Difference Between Feelings And Emotions? People generally use the words “feeling” and “emotion” interchangeably, but there are distinct differences between them. It is important to know the difference as it can make a huge change to your behaviour and your child’s behaviour, […]
Why is it that some people live positive and resourceful lives during adversity and some people remain negative? 66% Of Children Are Facing Emotional Issues (According To My Recent Survey) When I recently surveyed parents to ask what challenges their children under 18 were facing at the moment, two […]
As I opened Facebook on Monday morning, I saw lots of photos of children looking smartly dressed in their new uniform for their first day back at school. Children worry about their first day of school, but guess what, parents have separation anxiety too. I am in touch with a […]
This month, I was featured in the “Author Spotlight” section of my publisher’s internal newsletter. The topic I was featured for was using Twitter for business. I wanted to share my top 5 tips to use Twitter effectively for your business or blog: Learn the lingo – what is @, […]
With the sun shining and the summer holidays starting, it is hard not to be in a good mood! What do you have planned with your kids this summer? I would love to share with you 6 fun activities to do with your kids this summer holiday: Make healthy food together – […]
The UK and Europe have been through an emotional rollercoaster over the last few weeks and months approaching the EU referendum, dubbed #Brexit. Now, in the aftermath of the decision to leave Europe, the people of the UK are concerned about the future and what might happen next. The Government […]
Writing a book and growing a business is an all round experience. Not only do you have to think about the work itself, but also about promoting it. Part of that promotion is speaking about my work to spread the word and reach as many people as I can. […]
Fear and anxiety go hand in hand in making a child’s life a little more complicated. Whatever events have tragically happened, a child can experience severe stress that will increase their fear and anxiety, even at a very young age. In order to have a childhood that is free from […]
Self-talk is something we all do. We are always explaining things to ourselves, and making comments to ourselves. The question is what are we saying? What we say to ourselves radically affects the quality of our lives, and our ability to do things effectively. Are you using positive self-talk or […]
Recently, I experienced the bereavement of a close family member. It was heart-breaking because this was a man who was a kind-hearted family man. His belief was probably that I will work hard and my family will benefit. He was always the life of the party. He enjoyed seeing others […]
Advantages of Grieving The first thing I believe that we are trying to get with our grief is the person who died. When we grieve, it is our best attempt to keep that person alive, at least in our perceived world. We know they no longer exist in the physical […]
In March 2016, I ran a well attended workshop called “Keys To Changing Your Mindset” in association with Sophia Hubs and Enterprise Desk. The focus of the course was to help business people adjust their mindset for success and many people who attended expressed how important this is and how […]
Have you ever lost someone close to you, to death? We all will at some point in our lives. On 1st March, my brother-in-law lost his battle to pancreatic cancer. It was a very emotional time for everyone close to him and brought grief on the family. Since his […]
Today’s entrepreneur needs to look after themselves and that is the missing ingredient when they plan their schedules. Well-being is commonly used in philosophy to describe what is ultimately good for a person. Well-being is both subjective and personal. For me, well-being is about ensuring that we have a balance […]